Worried About a Parent

Signs That a Parent May Need More Support

It can be hard to know whether what you're noticing is normal ageing or something more concerning. Here are the signs worth paying attention to:

Having the Conversation

One of the hardest parts is raising the subject with a parent who may not want to acknowledge their difficulties. Some tips:

• Choose the right moment — not when they're tired or in a hurry. Sit down together, without rush.
• Focus on your feelings, not their failings — "I've noticed you seem tired lately and I've been worried" is easier to hear than "you're not coping".
• Ask, don't tell — "How have things been? Are there things that have become more difficult?" opens a conversation.
• Don't insist — if they're not ready, let it sit. Come back to it gently.
• Involve others if needed — sometimes a sibling, GP, or trusted friend can help raise concerns.

Next Steps

1. 1

   Visit the GP

   Many of the signs above could have medical explanations — depression, UTIs, medication side effects, early dementia. A GP assessment is the right first step. You can call the surgery yourself if you have concerns, even without your parent's involvement.

2. 2

   Request a Needs Assessment

   If your parent has care needs, contact the local council's adult social care team and ask for a needs assessment. This is free. Find their council →

3. 3

   Consider Home Care

   Regular visits from a carer can make a huge difference — someone to check in, prepare meals, and provide company. See how home care works →

4. 4

   Check Benefits Entitlement

   Many parents are not claiming benefits they're entitled to. Attendance Allowance (up to £108.55/week) is very widely unclaimed.